THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE: What Feels Natural

I have been blogging for at least fifteen years and writing for as long as I can remember. I am a writer. It is part of who I am.

Because I am a writer, writing blog posts feels easy and enjoyable. It comes naturally, doesn't feel like a burden, and I enjoy the process. Even if no one ever read my blog posts (thank you for reading!), I would still do it. It helps me process my thoughts and cement my views and opinions on various topics, and if it helps you, too, then it's a win-win.

What Doesn't Come Naturally?

You know what I am not good at? What doesn't come naturally? What feels challenging and cumbersome to me? Making video content.

For nearly as long as I have been blogging, people have said you must get on video to succeed. It's how people get to know, like, and trust you. It's a better way to communicate with your audience, and social sites prioritize video content over blogs.

And maybe they are right. Blogging is different from what it was ten years ago. Many of my blogger friends from ten or even five years ago have abandoned their blogs for other mediums or social media sites. I've stuck with blogging because I generally enjoy writing longer content, and it is beneficial for me to write it as it is (hopefully) for my reader to read it.

I've ignored video and leaned into my strengths, which, on the surface, seemed to be a good thing.

Examining Identity and Behavior

But it got me thinking about identity and how identity shapes our behavior. I am a writer, so I blog. As long as I have blogged, I've said, "I am a better writer than a talker."

It's always worth examining our thoughts and statements to determine if they are true because, as human beings, we tend to rationalize and bend the truth to fit a comfortable narrative.

This comes up with clients all the time because they say things like, "I am not good at sports," "I am not an athlete," or "I am uncoordinated," yet they are training for a half marathon or achieving new PRs in the gym. They are attached to an identity that is no longer serving them. I realized I did it, too.

A Story of Transformation: From "Not an Athlete" to a TRAINER & Coach

Growing up, I was terrible at team sports. I am sure my parents forced me to play in the neighborhood softball league with good intentions to teach me teamwork, sportsmanship, respect for others, dealing with wins and losses, and all that good stuff. But it was a nightmare for me. I hated every second of it. Then there was gym class. Ugh, co-ed swimming in those awful school-issued bathing suits, dodgeball, and whatever other activity that seems to highlight my athletic inability compared to my classmates.

It was decided before I was out of fifth grade. An athlete? That's not me. Those other kids were good at sports. I was better at writing.

But here I am today, that little girl who wasn't as athletic. Now, I am a running coach and personal trainer who helps people improve their athletic abilities. Once I discovered my athletic potential as an adult, I wanted to help others find theirs.

How Lifting Weights Changed My Perspective

I didn't learn my lesson there when I realized I was an athlete. That would be too easy. I started running and identified as a runner. It became who I was. I am a writer and a runner. It's why I started a running blog all those years ago.

But, again, over a decade ago, I decided, for reasons unknown, that I didn't like lifting weights. My sister is a bodybuilder. Yeah, that wasn't for me. I made this decision with little to no experience. I may have joined a Body Pump class or tagged along with a friend to the gym once or twice. It's too hard, too awkward. Am I doing this right? I might get hurt. Running is easy. I will stick to that because it's who I am: A runner.

What a giant mistake! Once I started consistently lifting weights, it changed me: I became more confident and stronger in body and mind. I love lifting weights, pushing my limits, destroying my perceived limitations, and finally reaching the body composition goals I could never achieve by running alone. I am still a runner at heart, my first true fitness love, but if I had to choose running or weight lifting? I would choose the weights. Thank God I don't have to choose!

Rewriting My Story: The Role of Identity

Boy, was I wrong about my identity? Was I telling myself stories that weren't serving me? Again and again, this potentially held me back for years from pursuing my true purpose and passion in life. What would I be now if not a trainer and coach? The way I identified myself discounted what turned out to be my life's purpose and calling. I was wrong about my identity in the worst way.

With this realization, I started questioning all the stories I tell myself. What else could be holding me back? Let's go back to the video.

Embracing Video: A New Skill to Build

I spent the last fifteen years telling myself I was not good at video while consistently practicing and honing my writing skills and neglecting to work on video.

So, while it may be an objective fact that I am not very good at video (yet), is it because I never do it and I need to build the skills? Like the first time I walked into a gym, and it felt weird and awkward? Is it surprising that my writing has improved, but I am still bad at video?

While some skills may come more naturally to some than to others, that doesn't mean I can't learn, practice, and hone those skills to improve my abilities over time. So, I have revised my self-talk to "I am not good at making videos (yet)."

It is not about lying to yourself, "I am an excellent public speaker!" but recognizing the growth potential and working to improve.

The Launch of My YouTube Channel

So, I started a YouTube channel where I film short three-minute videos on various health and fitness topics daily. Are they perfect? Hell no. Are they good? Not really. The message is good, though, so I'd love for you to watch it while I hone my skills. First order of business: get more comfortable in front of the camera! The only way to do that is to get in front of the camera daily.

I took a short five-day free video course from Nausheen on LinkedIn, which has been helpful! I will redo her lessons again while I practice my skills. I've been tossing around the idea of hiring a coach because, as a coach, I can see the value in hiring someone to help you get where you want to be faster than you could on your own.

Why I’m Committing to Video Growth

In the meantime, I can grow these skills with intentional practice and more experience, which will serve me well in whatever I do. I am a runner, a weightlifter, and a writer, and I am working to become a dynamic public speaker.

On that note, when my friend Stella asked me to be the first guest on her "Women Over 60 Embracing Life—Later is Greater" podcast, I jumped at the opportunity to practice my skills while sharing my knowledge and gaining experience under different speaking conditions! Check it out here. Her Podcast officially launches in January 2025, so my appearance is an advanced peek at what is to come. If her message resonates with you, please subscribe. I’m sure you will love her kind demeanor and balanced approach to wellness.

Final Thoughts: Question Your Stories

So, it's worth considering: Are there any stories you tell yourself that may be holding you back from your true potential?

Please check out my YouTube channel here. I share the videos every day on my Lea Genders Fitness Facebook page.

And if you want to support me in my growth mission, I am hosting a LIVE workshop about successfully working towards your health and fitness goals over the holidays while still enjoying everything the holidays have to offer! It will be packed with helpful takeaways on mindset, nutrition, and exercise. I'd love to see you there!

Do you know someone who might benefit from coaching? It helps me when you share with your friends and followers.

Questions? I’d love to help.

Coach Lea